{"id":95,"date":"2017-02-03T00:02:38","date_gmt":"2017-02-03T00:02:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.hippy.com\/hip\/uncategorized\/why-why-why\/"},"modified":"2017-02-03T00:02:38","modified_gmt":"2017-02-03T00:02:38","slug":"why-why-why","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.hipplanet.com\/hip\/ask-the-old-hippie\/why-why-why\/","title":{"rendered":"Why, Why, Why???"},"content":{"rendered":"

\t\t\t\thello old hippy. I need someone wise to talk to. I
\nhave these questions in the back of my mind. What are
\nwe? What is the point? Day in day out all we just go
\non living our pointless boring lives hoping to make a
\nmark in the world. Then we die quicker than we came
\nin. And its all over. Like we go thru a load of crap
\neveryday only to die and let it all be over. It
\ndoesn’t make sense. I just feel like there should be
\nmore. <\/span><\/p>\n

Why should my best friend suffer from depression?
\nWhy should i worry about my mom losing it? Why should
\nwe all be so concerned with the way we look when we
\nleave the house and so concerned with being a
\nsuccessful doctor or lawyer? Why should people get
\nmarried if it is easier to just be in love and stay
\ntogether til death? Why am I judged by the size of my
\nbreasts? And why does being young hold me back from
\nso much when this is the time of my life I will always
\nrefer to? Why am I who I am? Why do we all think
\nwe’re so right and everyone with a different point of
\nview is so wrong? I don’t get it. there has to be
\nmore.<\/p>\n

Please respond. I know my questions might be a
\npain or a bore but I really need someone or something
\nright now. I am questioning not only my existence but
\neveryone and everything.<\/p>\n


\nWhew, that’s a lot of good questions. I’ll try to answer a few. <\/span><\/p>\n

Depression: It can be caused by many things, but it certainly is a
\n‘dis-ease’. It can be a dissatisfaction with one’s place in the world,
\npersonal events, life in general, etc. It can also have biological roots
\nwith a chemical imbalance in the brain. People who are obsessive can find
\nflaws with themselves and others and just obsess over it to the exclusion of
\nall else, including the beauty around them. For those without a biological
\ncause, a change of venue, routine, job, living arrangement, etc. can be just
\nthe cure needed. Also helping out those LESS fortunate can help because not
\nonly doesn’t the world revolve around your personal problem, but then you’re
\nalso doing something that makes you FEEL GOOD. For those with biological
\nproblems, consult with a recommended physician or naturapath (healer,
\nmassage therapist, accupuncturist, herbologist, etc.). Hopefully they can
\nhelp restore the balance need for a healthy body and outlook on life.<\/p>\n

Your Mom: I assume your mom is on the verge at times. You care because you
\nlove your mom, and want her to be happy. That’s perfectly natural. But
\nthere’s no need to worry too much about it. It’s better to focus your
\nenergy on being the best you can be, and this would include caring for your
\nmom. It’s very difficult to help others until you take good care of
\nyourself. Then others are helped just being around you. Give your mom
\nPOSITIVE ENERGY, not worried emotionality. That always helps! Good luck!<\/p>\n

How we look, and what we do: People care about their looks because it’s a
\nreflection of how they feel inside. People who obsess over looks and social
\nstatus are never happy with themselves or others and tend to be very
\njudgemental. The key here is to love yourself, and your beauty will shine
\nregardless of how much makeup you put on (or how little) or what kind of
\nclothes you wear. We are socialized to be successful and this means not
\njust a good career, but also a good mate and children are signs of success.
\nThis is important on a species level that people who are good providers are
\nthe ones to reproduce their successful DNA. So society reinforces this with
\nhundreds of social cues (fancy cars, exclusive memberships, first-class,
\netc.) to indicate that that individual possesses traits that are valuable
\ngiven the prevailing values of society. In our society competition is the
\nmeans by which people are valued. We have sports, game shows, exams,
\ncontests, promotions, etc. to give us a chance to excel in some way, thus
\nflaunting our superiority in public.<\/p>\n

The problem is that these values are relative from one society to the next.
\nThe best hunter in the Rainforest = the best herder in the plains = the best
\nJava programmer = the best looking babe on Baywatch. These people get
\nrewarded in their societies and are admired and have the best selections for
\nmates. Well maybe not the java programmer! \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

Anyway this shows how important it is for alternative communities to agree
\non values so that they can offer other means to be successful. On a commune
\nit’s important to cooperate, work hard, and get along with others.
\nCompetition is minimized. Individuals are supposed to measure their own
\nsuccess by how well the group succeeds meeting its self-sufficiency needs.
\nHippies reject the competitive role and seek not success but true happiness.
\nThis comes from finding peace within and loving oneself. Then sharing that
\nlove with others. Love is its own reward!<\/p>\n

Marriage: Again marriage is part of the social success that society rewards.
\nIt has ancient roots and is bound up with religious dogma. It’s presumed
\n(by society and religion) that stable relationships yield healthier
\nchildren. This may be very true. There is a correlation (statistically)
\nbetween juvenile delinquency, and other serious social problems and broken
\nfamilies. So by laying a heavy guilt trip on people to get married, society
\nis trying to encourage long term relationships and stable families. Once
\nupon a time we had extended families with several generations living
\ntogether. This is a very natural situation where more social roles are
\navailable and the family ties grow ever stronger as the family ages.
\nGrandparents make the best baby sitters, and have the time and knowledge to
\npass on to grandchildren. The rise of the nuclear family has just about
\ndestroyed this concept in modern society, and is a great loss for all.<\/p>\n

Then again marriage also lays a whole set of expectations upon people
\n(especially young people) that they are often unable to live up to. Thus
\nthe high divorce rate. In Europe (esp. Northern Europe), there is a whole
\nnother attitude towards marriage. People now wait until their thirties to
\nget married, if at all! This has resulted in a very low birth rate, which
\nis causing problems too.<\/p>\n

So marriage has several important functions. It serves to provide a stable
\nfamily life for children. It acts as an important legal contract giving
\nrights to spouse and children – esp. property and inheritance. It’s a
\nmeasure of social status that supposedly keeps the partners from spreading
\ntheir DNA around.<\/p>\n

Is marriage necessary in today’s world? My opinion is that it reflects the
\nmaturity of those who enter it or don’t. It’s a serious commitment and not
\nto be taken lightly. Depending on the couple’s moral development it may be
\nneeded to provide the guidance (rules) they need to promote stability in
\ntheir relationship. Or they might not need it because they find social
\nrules stifling to individuality and personal freedom. Or because they
\nreject the values behind the contract or feel that love transcends laws
\nwhile society limits love. Ultimately each person must decide what’s right
\nfor them and their dharma.<\/p>\n

Breast size: Are yours large or small? Just kidding….:) This again has
\nto do with the first question – why we are judged by how we look? Breast
\nsize is important in ‘primitive’ societies as they can indicate a woman’s
\nability to feed children. In American society breasts are kept hidden
\n(relatively) and as such are novelties and the subject of much speculation
\nand fantasy by men and esp. adolescent boys. In other countries where
\nbreasts are not such a ‘hidden treasure’, men often fantasize about legs or
\nears or hair or body smell. It’s always what you can’t have or see that
\npiques your interest. Unfortunately in our sexually hung up society, people
\ntend to make judgements about others based upon how they look. Depending
\nupon how you flaunt your assets you can be labeled (whore, dyke, old maid).
\nAgain this serves the purpose of indicating to the opposite (or same) sex
\nyour availability as a sexual partner. It’s such an instinctive thing.
\nJust be aware of the signals you are sending out. It will determine the
\nresponse you get from others.<\/p>\n

Being young: They say ‘youth is wasted on the young’. This is because when
\nwe are young we have all this wonderful energy and enthusiasm and a healthy
\nbody, but don’t know what to do with it. Your point is well taken because
\nsociety tends to limit what young people can do in terms of activities (like
\ndriving, sex, drinking) and opportunities (dating, jobs, travel). So it’s a
\ndilemma to be so virile and vivacious but restricted to utilize it for fun
\nor pleasure or gain. It’s like the eternal complaint that you need
\nexperience to get a job, but you can’t get a job without experience. We
\nolder folks with lots of experience find that we can’t do the things we used
\nto because our bodies aren’t what they were. We’re slower, heavier and
\ncan’t think as fast as we used to.<\/p>\n

Those things that you feel as limitations will soon be lifted. And once
\nthey are you’ll get to do everything you want. And guess what? They’ll be
\na thrill for a moment and then once you’ve done them, you won’t understand
\nwhat all the fuss was about. I think it’s best for parents to decide based
\nupon a child’s maturity (not necessarily age) when they are ready for
\ncertain activities. No two people are alike, and they need to be treated on
\nan individual basis, not based upon random criteria (age, grade, breast
\nsize, etc.). If you feel you are being unfairly limited, speak up, give
\nexamples of others you know who have more freedom, and be adult about it.
\nReason with those in charge. The worse situation is that you have to wait a
\nfew more years. Just don’t make such a big deal about it because few things
\nare worth it.<\/p>\n

Who are you? You are who you are because of genetic, social and moral
\nevolution. You are a product of your parent’s DNA and your social milieu.
\nIf you’re not happy with yourself you need to delve within to find out why.
\nSometimes the social situations we face are not to our liking. Once you
\nreach a certain maturity you can do something about it. Leave town, go to
\ncollege, find a lover, whatever. One thing you can be sure of, things
\nchange. Sometimes we must initiate the change within ourselves first, then
\nall the circumstances around us change, usually for the better. Just make a
\nconscious effort to understand yourself and those around you and you will
\nlearn how to please yourself and others. It’s really not so hard to do.
\nAnd once you find yourself, the path is an easy stroll, with you in control.<\/p>\n

Right vs Wrong: Truth is a relative thing. That is; what I see is truth is
\nmy truth, what you see is yours. We are subjective beings, and objective
\ntruth does not exist. If we all saw things the same way this world would be
\nvery boring indeed. The real trick, and one path towards enlightment is to
\nRealize Empathy. That is to be able to relate so much to another person’s
\npoint of view that you merge. Love is pure empathy. You become the other
\nby feeling what they feel, no longer judging them, thus loving them
\nunconditionally. That is the highest form of Love. When you experience
\nthis you become one with everything since that is TRUTH. Truth therefore is
\nneither subjective nor objective, it’s totally immersive and inclusive.
\nWhen you love there is no I and you and them. There is only love. And
\nTHAT’S the truth. =:)<\/p>\n

I hope this answered your questions! They were the best I’ve seen in
\nawhile. You are very intelligent, and continue to question EVERYTHING, may
\nyou find the answers!<\/p>\n

-The Old Hippy<\/p>\n

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